Hi, My name is Martha. I spent 50 years of my life being influenced and making decisions based upon survival mindsets I developed during my parents’ divorce.  50 years.  Those mindsets served me well as a child; and not so well as an adult.  I realized that it was those very mindsets that were holding me back from  what I really wanted in life.  And here is the thing – I was not even aware that they existed for most of my life.  It was just who I was.  I really believed that I was over my parents’ divorce in my teenage years.  After all, I did not want them to get back together anymore.  What I did not realize is that  my survival mindsets developed during the divorce had created neuro pathways that were controlling quite a bit of my emotions, behavior, decisions and dreams.  So I decided enough was enough.  And I chose to replace those mindsets with supportive and healthy mindsets that set me free of the remnants of the divorce.    

I have dedicated my life to “fixing” divorce. I went to law school and spent decades practicing family law in an effort to stop the emotional backlash from the divorce crash into the kids. I know that kids of divorced parents can have all the joy and support of a family, without developing drastic survival mindsets.   I know this is possible, because I have done it!