Coaching Now-Adult Children of Divorced Parents
You do not need to continue to be a people pleaser.
You do not need to change who you are depending on who you are with.
You do not need to continue to wait for the other shoe to drop.
Are you ready to release the survival mindsets your mind created to keep you safe during your parents’ divorce?
Are you ready to set new mindsets that will help you grow and live the life of your dreams?
I can help you find and release the survival mindsets created during your parents’ divorce and set new mindsets that support you now.
You can be free. You can celebrate all the milestones in your life without a thought to your parents’ divorce.
You can be a true survivor and thrive.
Martha Davis Alexander, JD, Mediator, CFLC
Hi, My name is Martha. I spent 50 years of my life being influenced and making decisions based upon survival mindsets I developed during my parents’ divorce. 50 years. Those mindsets served me well as a child; and not so well as an adult. I realized that it was those very mindsets that were holding me back from what I really wanted in life. And here is the thing – I was not even aware that they existed for most of my life. It was just who I was. I really believed that I was over my parents’ divorce in my teenage years. After all, I did not want them to get back together anymore. What I did not realize is that my survival mindsets developed during the divorce had created neuro pathways that were controlling quite a bit of my emotions, behavior, decisions and dreams. So I decided enough was enough. And I chose to replace those mindsets with supportive and healthy mindsets that set me free of the remnants of the divorce.
I have dedicated my life to “fixing” divorce. I went to law school and spent decades practicing family law in an effort to stop the emotional backlash from the divorce crash into the kids. I know that kids of divorced parents can have all the joy and support of a family, without developing drastic survival mindsets. I know this is possible, because I have done it!